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Do you cuss around your kids?

By on Apr 27th

Emi sent us a question about cussing around your kids — do ya or don't ya?

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Would this sign be kosher in your house? Photo by Tim Pritlove, used with Creative Commons license.

I've always thought that if I ever have a child, I will inevitably cuss around my kid(s) — I kind of cuss like a sailor. Whenever I am near other people's children, I try my best not to cuss just because I know a lot of people don't like it. But I don't personally mind it, as long as it is not used in a hateful or violent manner.

I've been thinking lately that I'm not sure how I would handle the situation of cussing and my own kids. On the one hand I would not want to censor myself or my child, but on the other hand I don't want to needlessly offend others around us. I know that if I or my child cussed in earshot of others, we may be judged incredibly harshly because of that.

I don't have children yet, but I want to ask how Offbeat parents how they handle cussing/cursing around their children. Have you chosen not to cuss around your children, or to just let it all flow? If you have chosen not to cuss around your children, how do you handle it when other people do? How do you approach those people and/or how do you talk to your children about these words? If you have chosen to cuss around your kids, how do you keep it from being an issue when they are out of the home?