My lovely wife and I just found out that we're expecting! After about a year of trying with a known donor, lots of ups and downs with a low sperm count, and finally getting to a place where we were okay with waiting for a baby, we came as close to a surprise lesbian pregnancy as we think is possible. It's still super early, so we're cautious, but bolstered by the knowledge that we CAN get pregnant!
As the non-bio mom, I am super excited, and know that I have a huge and important part in this — but I don't know where to start looking for resources! I've been scouring the web for blogs, articles, and other resources for non-bio moms. Many of the blogs I've found are out of date and/or no longer being updated. The articles I'm finding don't quite fit our situation. I can't find any sort of pregnancy journal for the non-bio parent that isn't for a dad.
I want to have pregnancy-related projects and responsibilities that are my own to manage and work on and throw love into — but I can't find any of those features or articles that you always come across and think, "What a good idea! I can't wait to do that when it's our turn."
So I guess what I'm asking for, of other non-bio moms out there or anyone else who has ideas… where do I start? I'm looking for blogs that are regularly updated, books I can read (Confessions of the Other Mother and She Looks Just Like You are on hold at my library), articles, journals, etc. — Katie
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