How do I ask the person hosting my baby shower to make the party gender-neutral?

January 9 |
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By: Hamish DarbyCC BY 2.0
My fiance and I aren't having a baby yet, but we're trying to conceive and have already decided that we don't want to find out the sex of the child until delivery. I have a lot of family and friends who will likely want host a baby shower for me, but I'm not sure how to convey the idea of gender-neutrality to them.

I hope to have a shower that doesn't include gender-based games (boys vs. girls, blue and pink, soccer star or ballerina, etc;), but I'm pretty sure all of my family and friends will think this is a crazy notion. I'm committed to providing a peaceful, neutral environment for my future child grow into an individual, free from gender-based indoctrination, and for said family and friends to know that it is important to me.

How do I propose the idea of a gender-neutral baby shower to the host with a stressed importance to not play any games or make any references that impose ideological gender roles? — Kate