Values

We believe that…

  • Families come in many forms other than the heterosexual nuclear family model, and we support parenting of all sorts, including biological, adoptive, step, and foster.
  • Becoming a parent doesn’t mean completely abandoning your pre-kid lifestyle and aesthetics.
  • Every parent has the right to choose what’s best for themselves and their child, within reason of responsibility and not causing harm to others.
  • It’s critically important for mothers to maintain an element of autonomy and identity separate from their partners and children. We believe you can love being a mother and still take time for yourself and your other interests.
  • Every parent, every kid, and every situation is different. We do not believe in dogmatic parenting philosophies or judging those who make different decisions.
  • As long as you’re making well educated, truly conscious decisions, there are very few wrong choices.
  • Being proactive is more powerful than being reactive. We are not parenting rebels — we chose what we feel is best for ourselves and our children.
  • Subcultures and nontraditional families are awesome, although we provide support unconditionally across the full range of the normative/non-normative spectrum.
  • Offbeat shouldn’t be confused with laissez faire or anarchistic.
  • We're not here to argue and we don’t waste our time debating over the parenting roads we choose not to travel. [Please read the Offbeat Mama commenting policy.]
  • Women's online communities have been taken over by acronyms that can be alienating and confusing. Rather than use shorthand to describe our ideas (EC, CD, BF, WTF?) we chose real language so that all readers can understand us.
  • Non-binary parenting philosophies are our favorites. We don't believe that any idea needs to be all or nothing, and binary philosophies only manage to scare away curious folks who might benefit from dabbling.