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The history of National Grandparent's Day and ideas for grandparent celebrations

If you live in the United States you know how we just looooooove to make holidays for everyone, and September 8 is yet another: it's National Grandparent's Day! I'm a big fan of celebrating just about anything and anyone, so I'm totally on the Grandparent's Day train. While looking around for cute ideas for stuff my kid could do for his long-distance grandparents, I realized I don't know ANYTHING about the origins of the day. Anyone up for a history lesson/craft party? Let's do it.

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It's cool if you're not a woman, and 9 other rules for dating my son

Since the advent of Pinterest and Tumblr, posts venting parental frustrations have been shared, pinned and reblogged with silent nods of understanding, uproarious laughter and the occasional GPOY tag. Now and then, I'll come across a post intended as humor that really bugs me. When I look at what the post is really saying, it's just passive-aggressive repetition of the tropes and assumptions that I don't want to include in my parenting.

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The right answer to "how is the baby?" and why we have kids in the first place

If you don't have kids but plan to have them some day, remember that. Chances are you'll need to change the way you hear that question soon, so that when you have a baby you don't start answering the way things are really going. Because, if you were being honest, you would probably say: "Baby is fine, except…" (don't worry, there are LOTS of things you can fill in here. I'll just add one.)

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I knew breastfeeding might be hard, but had no idea weaning would seem impossible

I've come across the advice "If mom isn't happy, then do something differently," but that's not all that helpful in the long-run. I've found a few gentle weaning tips online, but the prospect of a few more months of diligence and consistency seems daunting and exhausting. And my friends aren't much help, either. While they're in various stages of breastfeeding, we're all trying to figure out when it's right to stop breastfeeding and how to go about doing it.

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Parenting sweet spots: spontaneous "I love yous" and eating raw broccoli

Right now we're in the midst of what I like to call a "parenting sweet spot" — those weeks or months in which there aren't any major behavioral problems going on, most-to-all of the balanced meals are being eaten, and my child's general disposition is one of a curious, sweet, and incredibly polite little boy. To me, these sweet spots are evidence that the hard work you put in weeks or sometimes years prior has paid off: your kid has actually learned something from you, and that something is good.

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My partner and I speak and sign five languages and are trying to raise multilingual children

As a child of immigrants I ended up bilingual pretty much by default. My parents are from Taiwan and China, so I grew up speaking Mandarin Chinese with them and speaking English with my older sister and at school. Although I dreaded going to Chinese School on Sundays as a child, by the time I left for college I recognized the benefits of being bilingual and I knew even then that I would want my future children to be the same.

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Open thread: do you ever catch yourself turning into one of your parents and like it?

I spent a lot of time as a teenager wondering if my mom was really happy. How could she be, I wondered, working a thankless job as a teacher, married to a man who worked incessantly, and dealing with two kids who were hell? She never stopped moving — she would wake up at 4AM to work out before her day began, and then go through her daily motions. How could anyone be happy with that?