It happened when I was 18. I was going to an all-girls Catholic college, and one morning — a particularly chilly late-autumn morning in Massachusetts — I looked up at the chapel, and I couldn't feel him. He was gone. It took a bit of adjusting. For 18 years I'd believed in him. To just stop, well, it was jarring.
This is Offbeat Families's archive of religion posts.
While discussing all things family related with my fiancee, we were debating whether or not we should raise the kids vegan (I'm vegan, she's not) or according to my religious beliefs (she's agnostic and doesn't follow anything specifically). For us, as a queer couple, this opens some interesting dialogue because if we end up adopting and those kids are older, we don't necessarily feel right imposing beliefs on someone who is of an age where they can make their own decisions.
I was flipping through the internet one day when I saw a tweet that likened Ari Goelman's recently published The Path of Names to a Jewish Harry Potter tale, and immediately clicked over to read the article. You guys probably know by now that I take my 14-year-long Harry Potter fandom and all references to the series very seriously, so of course (of course!) I had to check it out.
I have a nine-year-old stepson. I've been in his life since he was two-years-old. We've always split time 50-50 between the houses. My partner and I are definitely offbeat. We're tattooed, politically radical and activist-y, feminist, intentionally unmarried, and atheists. Around the time my stepson was four, his biological mom "found Jesus" and joined an evangelical, fundamentalist church. Needless to say, this was a difficult transition. Now, our little dude is coming to our house and evangelizing to us, trying to convert us.
We're both atheists, but our families are deeply religious (my family is Catholic, his family Southern Baptist). My parents understand and respect our religious preferences, and won't force their opinions on our child… but my husband's mother is not that way.
I intend to raise my child in a Pagan household. I've come to see that this means different things to different people, and a lot of it probably has to do with our own experiences of childhood and religion.When I say "raising a child Pagan," I mean that he or she will be living their life in a largely Pagan household.