Remember when we talked about alternative club ideas for teens? Well, Towleroad recently linked to a video by the ACLU that explains how to start a Gay-Straight Alliance at your school or university.
This is Offbeat Families's archive of teens posts.
Basically, one of the teen characters, Quinn, got pregnant and gave her baby up for adoption — but now wants the baby back. She's a high school student, has no way to support a baby, and I kind of get the feeling that she wants custody of her child because of her own selfish desires — no one is really questioning whether or not she's emotionally or financially ready to have a child (because it's pretty clear she isn't).
BUT. BUT BUT BUT. The show keeps putting forth the idea that she would be a bad mom because of her pink hair, new clothes, and her nose ring.
Confession: I have totally been known to sneak veggies into our son's food — he's two-and-a-half and generally a good eater, but some days are easier than others. Sometimes, on the not so easy days, he'll find grated carrots and broccoli on top of his cheese pizza because that's how we roll.
Since I've spent just under half of my life as a child of a single parent, I never thought I'd be able to pinpoint the exact day I finally got a Dad of my own. I grew up with my Mom, two brothers, and my (maternal) Grandma. I had a few male role models throughout my childhood — mostly family members like my Uncle, Grandpa, and my younger brother's dad — but they came and went without trouble and I wasn't too concerned with why they didn't stick around. After all, they weren't my father — they had their own lives and their own things to do… which didn't include raising me.
I do believe some of my struggles directly deal with my age. I was a first-time mom at 17 and am on my way to having a second before I turn 20. Shit is sure to follow. I occasionally get eyeballed during toddler playgroups and sometimes blatantly questioned about my age by curious mothers. It really isn't that big of a deal, though. The only time that ever bothers me is if it's followed by sympathy or straight-up negativity — it just seems silly to me. Could you imagine asking a mother her age and then apologizing for it?
I actually met the brains behind Htavos Kooky Monster Art Shop at Geek Girl Con, and purchased one of their "La-La Monsters" (they're designed by his five-year-old niece!) — which unfortunately don't appear to be listed at the shop! But you can snag one of these Toaster and Pop Tart Twin Plushies, which are suuuper cute.
Yesterday while I was tending to a plumbing problem my kids were doing their homeschooling. My older son was in my line of sight quietly reading in his bedroom. He looked up from Lord of the Flies to ask me when I read the book (he knew from a prior conversation that I'd read it). I said it was about three years ago, or maybe four. He asked why I didn't read it in school. I called my eleven-year-old upstairs and said I had something to explain they should know. My kids have never been to school and they don't really know how it all works, ranging from the daily goings on of the students and the big picture issues.
I'm curious: how do various offbeat parents explain privilege to your kids? Not the "you've lost your computer privileges for the day, young lady!" kind of privilege, but the kind of privilege we talk about in social justice work: advantages our society hands to people based on their (perceived or actual) identities and experiences.